I am . . .

A vintage junkie, a legendary vintage junkie, who tries her best to put all of her insane & illogical feelings & illusions into words. I am who I am.

"You can do anything, you just have to dress for it."
Edith Head

a.s x

April 18, 2012

Stupid in LOVE!


Out of your mind, you’re left to wonder, over and over, about why you’re in a relationship that does you no good; a relationship that will not allow you the space to be the best version of you that you can become.  You’re stuck with a lover, whom you have become so attached to, so addicted to, that you can not see what you are or who you dream to become.

Lovers are the backbone of life, the person you fall in love with should be the person who helped you fall in love with yourself. What do we gain from relationships that cause us pain, over and over. Miserably happy, we become miserably happy. Blissfully unaware of the happier life we could lead if we just knew what our real worth was. Just because you're with a good person, it does not mean that they're good for you. Some people when together can bring out the worst in each other, while others can bring out the good and only the best in their partner. Isn’t that what you want? Someone who will recognize the best in you and shake it out of you whenever you’re in denial about how much you have to offer yourself and the world around you.

Leave broken relationships behind, take a chance on something wonderful if it makes you love yourself.  Why do I hear couples complaining about marriages like bitter fools, why are there so many jokes about how sad marriages are, how mean women become and how careless man can be. If marriage was so horrid, if serious relationships were so soul consuming, then why on earth do we put up with it? Ego issues? Are we really too proud to admit that we’ve made a mistake, that we’ve loved the wrong person, or tried too hard at something but inevitably failed? It’s okay, there’s never a thing such as a wasted love, love is never wasted, perhaps abused, but not wasted. Don’t abuse the love you can give, share it with the person who deserves it and not with the person who’s too stingy to share it with you.

It is true that when you stop loving yourself, you will stop growing. You will stop seeing and understanding your capabilities in a positive light, and what good will do that do you, or your partner. Sometimes we are pushed into relationships because of the over flow of lust, or love, or just the pure excitement of finding someone who seems to have things in common with you,  and you rush it.

Rushing a relationship into something it’s not will not save you any time, or effort. In fact the pain you will have to deal with and take in will wear you down, until you have no breath left in you to find the real love in your life. Or to even love yourself the way you deserve to be loved. Don’t be stupid in love. Don’t do that to yourself.

a.s x